Melody_2.1_NI

In this chapter, Steve Duck mentioned that social order defines for us and basically instructs us on what a good relationship is like while personal order is a more personal understanding and definition of what a good relationship would look like for us. I like that he creates the distinction between both social order and personal order. I find that many people tend to forget about personal order. Often times, we receive so much "advice" and opinions from others about what our relationships should look like, what we should do, and what we shouldn't do. And for people who struggle with wanting very much to please others, they often forget that it is not at all necessary to take everyone's advice (it's probably impossible actually). It is important that those individuals recognize the importance of deciding for themselves what would work for them to have a successful relationship, instead of blindly following what others tell them would work. People can advise us all they want, but in the end, we are the ones who have to live with the decisions that we make about our relationships, not them.