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One particular topic of conversation that I can think of in relation to this issue is one that I had with my sister concerning a really close friend of ours. Let's just call this friend "A." A is someone who is incredibly dear to me and my sister; however, especially since A entered into adolescence, we have seen how much trouble she has when it comes to relationships. She has trouble not only in her romantic relationships but also in her close friendships. She is very critical of other people yet sensitive to the way they treat her and react to her to the point that even my sister and I had some trouble just being close to her; she reads too much into people's actions towards her and then seems to take it out of proportion to the point that it causes a lot of problems.
In dealing with the problems in our respective friendships with A, my sister and I had our own thoughts and ideas regarding A and the problems that she had in relationships. However, upon discussing it together, our opinions and understanding about A's behavior began to change. We realized that it was not simply that A enjoyed being dramatic and was just not mature enough to know how to handle her relationships but that her behavior may be caused by some familial issues that she had while she was growing up. We began to recognize different events that happened to A while she was younger that is probably significantly affecting her behavior and ability to relate to and interact with people in her life right now.
Discussing the issue together enabled me and my sister to interpret A's behavior differently as well become more understanding of A and the issues that she has.
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posted by Melody Teo @ 9:02 AM
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4 Comments:
I like what you say at the end, how talking to your sister about it, helped you unederstand A more. Sometimes, we disagree with the way certain people act or behave, but our duty is to help them out and try to understand the reasons why they behave the way they do.
I share that idea,we need to walk in other people's shoes before we judge them or disagree with them. It's good to try to understand why they behave the way they do, and even help them overcome that stage. But when they don't learn their lesson and continue to behave in a certain way, and being around that person makes you feel uneasy, is it acceptable to say I'm done and step off? What do you think?
I see what your point is, and it is definitely true. Many people try really hard to seek the attention of others, but there is always something behind. Something should have happened in the past so that A behaves that way.
Christian, I can definitely see that may be the best course of action sometimes, but I think it also depends on the circumstances and your relationship with that person. For me, with A, I don't think that I will ever come to the point when I will say I'm done and just give up on the friendship because she is incredibly important to me. I think that if the relationship is hurting you in some way, be it physically or emotionally or anything else, then it would probably be best if you just completely let it go, but like I said, with A, I don't think I could ever do that.
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