Becca_5.3_DQ18

I'm a little Lengthy today.....

I was a master at being in the "friend zone" when I was in middle and high school. The few friends that I had were semi popular so they were always dating. The worst part was that even the friends of these boys wouldn't even date me! Haha! I laugh about it now...

Anyways, to the question! After the third date if nothing has happened I really don't think that there should be anything to worry about! The relationships that I am going to reference aren't "mature" relationships with first dates that lead to relationships. These are high school, "I like you, You like me, Let's be Boyfriend and Girlfriend" kinda stuff.

During my first relationship, Nick didn't kiss me until well over a month into us dating. I thought it was the cutest thing because we got the chance to really get to know each other before the physical stuff got in the way. 

I have however been in a position (in High School) where I guy confessed his liking for me and wanted to go straight to sex. This was a huge turn off for me because I wasn't in the place where I was comfortable with that. All of my friends were so irritated at me for not giving in because it set me apart from them.

The last example that I'll use is one of my best friends back home. Shannon and Michael started being in a relationship at the end of our Junior year and his Senior Year. They have been together ever since and are perfect for each other in every way. It was the only relationship that I saw and knew that it was going work from day one. They did get pregnant together at the beginning of our Senior year and had a lot they had to deal with in order for their relationship to be healed and continued.

I don't want to be the "holier then thou" Christian that says that any physical act within a relationship is bad because it wouldn't be fair for me to state that at all, but it does complicate things.

I would commend a guy who waits until the third date to make a move. When you know that you are supposed to be with a person there is a irresistible passion between you both that makes it hard to move forward without the physical stuff. 

I'm probably old fashioned from this standpoint, but if a guy doesn't make a move I would sit back and wait until he says something. I would give an example, but I'm not exactly ready to do so just yet. So I'll end with this statement. If a relationship doesn't need work or doesn't have mystery, then what's the point? It might as well be two idle sitting friends.

 This is Baby Bean with Michael, Shannon, and Auntie Becca, Born June 22nd, 2012!

 Bean and Auntie Becca!