Christian_1_DQ1&2
Just like the book explains, different cultures
have different views regarding life events such as marriage and divorce. I believe one of the reasons why divorce rates
are so low in India is because divorce is socially and culturally unacceptable. Given
the fact that marriages are arranged by parents, if someone were to divorce
from their partners, they would be facing rejection from their families; from which
it can be inferred that if the marriage is not prosperous, for the most part,
there is no other choice but to stick with it. On the contrary, people are free
to express their feelings and marry whoever they want, and in this case, I
think one of the reasons why divorce rates are so high in the United States is because people do not
want to feel like their freedom is being taken away from them. Fortunately and
unfortunately, marriage is not seen so badly in the Western world as it is in
the Eastern world. I say fortunately because if you encounter that your
marriage is not what you expected and find yourself with a bad partner, there is a
remedy for it and you do not have to be stuck with someone; though, I say
unfortunately because divorce has made marriage seem like a less serious
process. Since you can always divorce your partner if the relationship does not
work out, marriage has been taken less seriously with time.
I think that marriages should not be
arranged by parents, however I do believe that there needs to be parental
approval in that relationship. After all, individuals are in search of the
fulfillment of the seven provisions of relationship, which is something that
has to be sought individually; thus, since the individual needs to feel the
sense of belonging with the family, there needs to be approval to maintain all
relationships in balance. Freedom of choice in a romantic relationship is
partly influenced by what it is seen with ones parents as the individual grows
up, part of what they teach you about relationships, and part of what you learn
on your own as you grow older; therefore it is not entire freedom. I do not
think race, socioeconomic standing, and locale of origin are a big deal when it
comes to falling in love.
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posted by Unknown @ 5:52 PM
5 comments
5 Comments:
I agree that divorce has over time caused the deterioration of the importance and long-lasting effects that marriage should have.
You raise an interest point. Social perception is a powerful influence on people. It is far more socially acceptable to get divorced in the United States than it is in India, so naturally it would happen more.
Social perception, as it has been mentioned before, is quite an issue relevant to this topic. I believe that this also means that because of these differences between cultures and ways of perceiving this happenings it is more difficult to come up with a definitive answer to the question if parents should arrange marriages or not, but you did a great job deepening in this specific point.
I think you also have a good point by saying that we get to choose whether we want to be stuck with someone or not. It may sound somewhat selfish, but, as humans, we make mistakes when making decisions and we may rush into a relationship that was not meant to be. I think we all deserve second chances to be happy, and if divocrcing will solve a problem for the individuals involved in the relationship, I think it's okay.
I agree with you when you say some people do not take marriage seriously when they know there is an "escape hatch" of sorts. Some do not think they will "be in it for the long haul" and when they find a better opportunity or grow tired of their partner, they get divorced.
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