Cole_2.1_NI

Within Chapter 2, the subtitle Social Order and Relational Appropriateness states that relationships must be done "properly, politely, and in ways that respect other people's needs not to be insulted." People seem to interpret this as an excuse to be two-faced. Because so many people have alter egos that they deem necessary to maintain a social order, such personas are considered the norm. So why is it that people who state their true intentions and feelings are usually either grouped in with the psychos, senile elders, and social misfits? Personally, I follow the old cliché: "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." In this fashion, I am able to avoid being two-faced for the most part, but this primarily applies for people I am not very close to which raises a second question. If someone deviates from the common accepted practice of manners, even around friends or family as most people do, should they (in this respect) be considered socially retarded?