Annabel_6.2_DQ

Friends: Marisa, Elena, Chelsie, Bianca, Lucas, Josh, Erica, Carlos, Don Henry, Monica All of them are not one race. Chelsie, Lucas, Josh and Don Henry are white. Marisa, Elena, Bianca, and Carlos are Hispanic. Monica is African American. I can say I have a wide span of friends that are different races. Most of my friends are some branch of Christian and only my friend Lucas is Jewish. Almost all of my friends are in college, except Chelsie is in beauty school, Monica has graduated college, and Don Henry and Bianca are in their last year of high school. I live relatively far away from most of my friends except for Bianca, Elena, and Don Henry. And lastly, I have met most of these people through my middle school and high school years at school. Monica I met through basketball, Bianca and Don Henry I have known since I was little.

Andrea_6.2_DQ9

Besides the embodiment of sex/gender, other types of material circumstances that may affect a relationship in one way or the other are distance, religion, social class, financial status, and educational level. Such factors may affect in numerous ways the way each person perceives a relationship with someone else.

I believe since the big boom of social networks such as Twitter and Facebook some kinds of relationships have lost that special "intimacy" aspect, since now we are able to see how long a a romantic relationship lasts, how many moments you may share with a friends, the places you visit with your friends, etc. This constant feedback on almost everybody's relationships makes it impossible to even believe in the nature of the relationship. What may appear to seem true in a wall post on Facebook may not be the most genuine feeling that the person involved is actually experiencing.

Corey_6.2_DQ19

Well this is something I have actually thought on relatively recently. Distance is the main material circumstance that can affect a relationship. Whether you want to accept it or not, distance puts more wear and tear on a good relationship than almost any other factor. Social media has made dating/relationships much easier to get into, and not in a good way. It adds peer pressure to have an 'in a relationship' status and makes meeting people you rarely or never talk to feasible through messaging, which is much less creepy than a call or text. Having 24/7 access to friends through my phone is vital to me. I can get what I want from who I want anytime by just hitting a few buttons. I do wish that I didn't have that technology accessible sometimes to maybe simplify my life, but no dice there.

Naima_6.2_DQ19

I think that other than a person's gender, things such as a person's social class, educational background, and even age can affect any relationship. Even when you want it or not, you tend to linger around or gravitate towards a certain type of people, but it is always good to be open to meet people from different backgrounds because you can learn so much from them.
With the rise of social media and the advancements in technology, the way we relate with people has changed as well. Personally, Facebook has been both good and bad. I love it because I can post pictures and my mom can see them and know what I'm doing. Since I am miles and miles away from my family, I can stay connected through Facebook with them. I like Twitter for different reasons; it's more of a way to voice your opinion. Then, I use YouTube just to watch music videos. I have uploaded videos before, but I do not do that regularly.
Having constant access to my friends is both good and bad. I like to be able to reach them through their phones, but I know that it can become a pain in the butt. Sometimes, I feel like I am being bombarded with e-mails, text messages, and phone calls. I guess there has to be a balance. At times, I have tried to turn off the data on my phone so that I do not get messages on Facebook or any e-mails. It feels good to do that at times.

Gabriella_6.2_DQ

Social networks have had both negative and positive effects in my relationships. One of my friends posted a statuson my wall: ''these american boys are driving me crazy.'' At the time, I had a boyfriend, and when he saw the status, he immediately texted to ask what was it all about. I told him that I did not write it, and it took time for him to believe it. Anyways, it is very interesting how people perceive your social networks and how they use them. One markets himself or herself by posting profile pictures, cover photos, notes, and statuses. People uses social networks with different purposes depending on who they want them  to read their posts. People often come to conclusions and judgments based on what you post on social networks. Many people will add you not because they know you but because of how you look in your propic. Normally, people will be more careful about what they publish on Facebook than what they post on Twitter because Facebook is checked out more often by family and close friends then Twitter. Nowadays, Twitter is as popular as Facebook, and I can dare to say it is even more popular and trendy than Facebook. On the other hand, cellphones are extremely useful. I cannot imagine myself without my iPhone. I have everything I need saved in it including all of the social networks I am signed up to.Group text messages make communication so much easier. I believe technology is essential to our society and its development is what keeps our generations advancing and growing.

Madeleine_6_OL

Maik: Different race, religion unknown, higher socioeconomic class, higher education, more then 10 miles away.

Christoph: Different race, religion unknown, higher socioeconomic class, higher education, more then 10 miles away.

Yuka: Different race, religion unknown, higher socioeconomic class, higher education, more then 10 miles away.

Sarah: Different race, religion unknown, higher socioeconomic class, same education, more then 10 miles away.

Pietro: Different race, religion unknown, higher socioeconomic class, higher education, more then 10 miles away.

Daniel: Different race, same religion, higher socioeconomic class, lower education, more then 10 miles away.

Reece: Different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same education, more then 10 miles away.

Austin: Different race, different religion, same socioeconomic class, lower education, more then 10 miles away.

Tyler: Different race, different religion, lower socioeconomic class, lower education, more then 10 miles away.

Clint: Different race, different religion, lower socioeconomic class, lower education, more then 10 miles away.

I do not find religion important when it comes to making friends nor do I find their race and socioeconomic class an important factor. The only reason their education level is different is because they are either older and have been in university longer or they are younger and still in high school. What really matters is their personality and interests. It is sad that they all live so far away, (different states and countries), but they are still my friends.

Anne_6.1_DQ

My relationships have used social networking cites to catch up with one another if we do not talk that often. The relationships that I have used Facebook has not really ruined any of my relationships. Cell phones on the other hand is a different story because everyone's way of contacting one another is through a cell phone. There have been times where I wish I do not have to have my cell phone on me all the time because either I just want to relax and people are texting and/or calling me constantly. There have also been times where I have gotten into a fight and the other person is blowing up my phone because they want to explain what they did wrong or right when all I want to do is think about what to do. Social networking and cell phones have become a way for people to communicate with one another, but sometimes all people want to do is get rid of them all because the announce they all seem to be.

Anne_6.1_OL

1) Maysam Homsi
- different race, no religion, different socioeconomic level, live less than 10 miles away from me in TN
2) Taylor Harrison
- same race, same religion, same socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
3) Garrett Kuna
- same race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
4) Liz Jenkins
- same race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
5) Flori Smith
- different race, same religion, different socioeconomic level, lives less than 10 miles away from me in TN
6) Mason White
- same race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
7) Briana Duncan
- different race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
8) Jacqueline Jurcik
- same race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
9) Heather Brown
- same race, different religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR
10) Jacob Porter
- different race, same religion, different socioeconomic level, lives more than 10 miles away from me in AR

alex_6.1_ol3

Name: Andrea Avalos, Race: Hispanic, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Same, Education Level: Above me, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Billy Easily, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Above me, Education Level: Above me, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Cameron Shiels, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Atheist, Socioeconomic Class: Above me, Education Level: Same, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Martin Trussle, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Same, Education Level: Same, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Corey Snyder, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Above me, Education Level: Above me, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Becca Phillips, Race: Caucasian, Religion: CHRISTIAN, Socioeconomic Class: Same, Education Level: Same, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Trenton Knighton, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Agnostic, Socioeconomic Class: Below me, Education Level: Below me, Within Ten Miles: No

Name: Alvin, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Below me, Education Level: Below me, Within Ten Miles: No

Name: Vasean Lusk, Race: African American, Religion: Christian, Socioeconomic Class: Same, Education Level: Same, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Name: Dalton Williams, Race: Caucasian, Religion: Atheist, Socioeconomic Class: Same, Education Level: Same, Within Ten Miles: Yes

Jacob_6.1_DQ

Duke-same race-not religous-same class-same education
John- caucasian same religon-same class-same education
Nick-caucasian-not religous-middle class-vocatonal school
Jacksone-same race-same religon-same class-vocat
Blake-hispanic-same religon-middle class- high school- 20miles
Brooke- navtive american-not religous-same class-high school- 20miles
Carrie-caucsian-same religon-upper class-same education over 100 miles
Amanda-caucsian-same religon-middle class-some college- over 100miles
Sara-caucsian-buddist-same class-same education-more than 10
Rayne- Italian-same religon- upper middle-highschool-over 60 miles

Dalton_6.1_OL3

Kincaid McMinn: Same race, Agnostic, same class, same education, within ten miles.... I live with him.
Alexa McCamey: Different race, Catholic, same class, same education, within ten miles
Adrienne Maney: Same race, Christian, same class, same education, within ten miles
Ty Volz: Same race, Christian, same class, higher education, within ten miles
Derek Wilson: Same race, Atheist, same class, same education, out of ten miles
Bethany Harper: Same race, Christian, higher class, lower education, out of ten miles
Allegra Shivers: Different race, Agnostic, same class, same education, out of ten miles
Solomon Simpson: Same race, Buddhist, same class, same education, out of ten miles
Khalan Morel: Same race, Atheist, lower class, same education, out of ten miles
Clayton Rodgers: Same race, Christian, same class, same education, within ten miles

Fernando_6.1_OL

Indicate whether they are the same race as you, same religion as you, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, live more than ten miles away from where you live now.

Adrian Lozano: same race, Catholic, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, he lives way more than 10 miles away from me (Monterrey, MX.)

Rodrigo Saenz: same race, Catholic, higher socioeconomic class, same educational level, he lives more than 10 miles away from me (Monterrey, MX.)

Dany Campos: same race, same religion, lower socioeconomic class, higher educational level, he lives more than 10 miles away from me (Monterrey, MX.)

Zack Millsaps: He is cacausian, same religion, lower socioeconomic class, lower educational level, he lives more than 10 miles away from me (North Carolina, U.S.) 

Mariana Madrigal: has Irish ancestors but still same race, Catholic, higher socioeconomic class, same educational level, she lives more than 10 miles away from me (Dallas, TX.)

Juan Garcia: same race, lower socioeconomic class, same religion, higher educational level, he lives more than 10 miles away from me (Saltillo, MX.)

Isai Castanon: same race, lower socioeconomic class, same religion, lower educational level, lives more than 10 miles away from me (Monterrey, MX.)

Pedro Angulo: same race, same socioeconomic class, same religion, same educational level, lives more than 10 miles away from me (Durango, MX.)

Jair Aguilar: same race, lower socioeconomic class, Catholic, higher educational level, lives more than 10 miles away from me (Austin, TX.)

Alejandro Cavazos: same race, higher socioeconomic class, Catholic, same educational level, live more than 10 miles away from me (Monterrey, MX.)

Alix_6.1_OL3

Me-Caucasian, Christian, Lower Class, In college.

Out of the list I made, 6 are the same race, 4 are the same class, 7 are the same religion, 9 are the same education level, and 8 live within 10 miles of me.

Christian_6.1_OL

Indicate whether they are the same race as you, same religion as you, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, live more than ten miles away from where you live now.

Teresa: Same race (Latino-Guatemalan), same religion (Catholic), same socioeconomic class (pretty similar), same educational level, lives in the same place where we met (on Campus).
Matthew: Different race (White-american), different religion (Baptist), same class, same educational level, lives in the same place where we met/ where I live (on Campus).
Karen: Same race (Latino-Mexican), same religion (Catholic), higher socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives in Mexico.
Gaby: Same race (Latino-Mexican), same religion (Catholic), much higher socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives in Italy.
Yoselin: Same race (Latino-Mexican), same religion (Catholic), a bit higher in the socioeconomic class scale,  higher educational level: she's done with her undergrad, lives in Mexico.
Calvin: Different race (White-American), different religion (Baptist), same class, same educational level, lives in the same place where I live (on Campus).
Mario: Same race (Latino-Salvadorian), different religion (Baptist), same class, same educational level, lives on campus too.
Daniela: Same race (Latino-Mexican), same religion, same class, same educational level, lives in Clarksville.
Edgar: Same race (Latino-Mexican), same religion, same class, higher educational level, lives in Clarksville.
Alejandro: Same race (Latino- CostaRican), same religion, same class, same educational level, lives on Campus.

Andrea_6.1_OL

1. Jessica: same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, she lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
2. Ana: same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away
3. Naima: same race, different religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away
4. Sharon: same race, different religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away
5. Gabriela: same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
6. Drury: different race, different religion, different socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away
7. Jason: same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away
8. Brandon: same race, different religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away
9. Jose David: same race, different religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away
10. Jenny: different race, same religion, different socioeconomic class, same educaitonal level, lives less than ten miles away

Naima_6.1_OL

Name	Race	Religion	Socioeconomic	Education	Distance
Jenny	White	Catholic	No	Yes	> 10
Larissa	Hispanic	Catholic	Yes	Yes	<10
Oscar Merlo	Hispanic	Catholic	Yes	Yes	>10
Alexandro P.	Hispanic	Catholic	Yes	Yes	<10
Amanda	White	Protestant	Yes	Yes	>10
Melody	Asian	Protestant	No	Yes	>10
Rolando	Hispanic	Catholic	No	Yes	>10
Andrea	Hispanic	Catholic	No	Yes	>10
Gloria	Hispanic	Protestant	No	Yes	>10

* The distance shown, is the distance prior to knowing them.

Corey_6.1_Ol

Sean – Same race, same religion, similar socioeconomic class, same grade and education level, more than ten miles away

Natasha – Different race, same religion, higher socioeconomic class, same grade and education level, less than ten miles away

Andrea – Different race, same religion, similar socioeconomic class, same grade and education level, lives less than ten miles away.

Ryan – Same race, similar religion beliefs, higher socioeconomic class, same education level, less than ten miles away

Rick – Same race, same religion, way higher socioeconomic class, he’s in his 50’s and a genius, more than ten miles away

Ron – Same race, different religion, unbelievably high socioeconomic class, way older and wiser, less than ten miles away

Daniel – Different race, same religion, similar socioeconomic class, same grade and education level, less than ten miles away

Elizabeth – Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same grade and education level, less than ten miles away

Monica – Same race, same religion, similar socioeconomic class, older and smarter, less than ten miles away

Christian – Different race, same religion, similar socioeconomic class, a grade above and smarter, less than ten miles away.

Becca_6.1_OL

List of friends/acquaintances/romantic partners:
1. Mike Meeks (Boss/Youth Minister/Daddy-Figure)
-Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now

2. Shannon Michelli (Friend from Middle School)

Mike Meeks

-Same race, same beliefs, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
3. Anna Bell (Friend from Middle School)
-Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
4. Patrick Shownes (Conference Worker)
-Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
5. Max Hilgendorf (MCM Leader/Peer Mentor)
-Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now

6. Austin Meeks (Little "Brother")

Austin Meeks

-Same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
7. Billy Easley (Same Major - Parent Figure)
-Same race, same beliefs, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now

8. Andrea Avalos (Same Major - Parent Figure)

-Same race, same beliefs, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now

Kyle Thurman

9. Kyle Thurman (Worship Leader)

-Same race, same beliefs, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now

10. Ryan West (Same Major - Jokeable)
-Same race, similar beliefs, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now

Gabriella_6.1_OL

1. Bryan: Latino: Christian: same socio-economic class: lower educational level: more than 10 miles away
2. Franco: Latino: Catholic: higher class: lower educational level: more than 10 miles away
3. Giancarlo: Latino: Christian:: same class: lower educ. level: more than 10 miles away
4. Joseph: Black-American: Christian: lower class: same educ. level: more than 10 miles away
5. Carlos: Latino: Christian: super lower class: super lower educ. level: more than 10 miles away
6. Patrick: Latino: Agnostic: lower class: super lower educ. level: more than 10 miles away
7. Keren: Latino: Christian: same class: lower educ. level: more than 10 miles away
8. Geraldine: Latino: Christian: same class: same educ. level: less than 10 miles away
9. Joselinne: Latino: Christian: lower class: lower educ. level: more than 10 miles away
10.  AJ: White-American: Atheist: same class: same educ. level: more than 10 miles away

DJ_6.1_OL

     Most of my friends are of different race then myself, though some may appear the opposite from a distance. Nearly all my friends are Christians, others are very widely in beliefs, but we all respect the others views and ideals and maintain our friendships. As far as economic and educational levels are concerned there is a great deal of diversity ranging from doctors to high school students and beyond, within reason of course. At this time all of my friends, not attending U of O, are more the ten miles away, some as far as mission fields in Africa, and Asia.

Cole_6.1_OL

1. Sharee - different race - same religion - similar socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me 
2. Chrissy - different race - different religion - lower socioeconomic class - lower educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me 
3. Elsa - different race - same religion - similar socioeconomic class - lower educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me 
4. Jesse - same race - same religion - lower socioeconomic class - lower educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me 
5. Evan - same race - same religion - similar socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me
6. Kelsey - same race - different religion - similar socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives more than ten miles away from me 
7. Duke - different race - unknown religion - similar socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives less than ten miles away from me 
8. David - same race - same religion - similar socioeconomic class - higher educational level - lives about ten miles away from me 
9. Vong - different race - different religion - lower socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives about ten miles away from me 
10. Savannah - same race - same religion - similar socioeconomic class - same educational level - lives about ten miles away from me

Melody_6.1_OL

List of friends/acquaintances/romantic partners:
1. Christina Paoli
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, livesless than ten miles away from where I live now
2. Patience Ozuru
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now
3. Naima Lopez
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now
4. Kelly Gorny
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now
5. Karlye Tolley
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives less than ten miles away from where I live now

6. Adrian Yap

-same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
7. Joshua Sebastian
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, different educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now

8. Wong Su-Ning

-same race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
9. Sarah Lim
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now
10. Joannes Soorian
-different race, same religion, same socioeconomic class, same educational level, lives more than ten miles away from where I live now

Annabel_5.3_DQ

I think that every relationship is different as to the speed people take with sexual activity. As for knowing if you have been put in the friend zone I think everyone can determine that through nonverbal communication with the other person.

Madeleine_5_DQ18

When in a relationship, sex should happen when both members are ready for that step. If sex is the building block of the relationship, if has a higher chance of failure because there is not much mystery left in that department. In a relationship, the couple should get to know each other before they jump into bed together.

Fernando_5.3_DQ18

When should sex activity happen in a relationship?

I honestly and firmly believe that sexual intercourse should only be in marriage, therefore the sexual activity should be taken into consideration when the couple feels like doing it, I do not believe there is a specific time that it should happen, or a time when it should not. Nonetheless, I know that many people do not share the same beliefs as me, and think that sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend is okay. In those cases, given my limited knowledge, I would think that there is no specific time for the sexual activity to happen, I'd think that with the most time the couple spends together, the stronger the bonds are, and more the sexual attraction. I think that when does bonds are strong enough is when sexual relationships could happen, but once again, I do not believe that sex before marriage is correct.

Alix_5.3_DQ18

Sexual activity doesn't have a specific time zone that it has to occur during the beginning of a relationship.  Even if after a third date there was no sexual activity does not mean you are in the friend zone forever.  There comes a time in a relationship when you and your partner just know that the time is right.  The train starts rolling, sparks fly, and love takes it's beautiful course.  Sex or no sex?  That is the question.

Christian_5.3_DQ18

I do not think there is a specific answer to this question. I believe it is up to the couple to determine whether it will happen or not, and it is different for every case. Missing the boat? That is a complex concept. For a start... a third date seems way to soon for one to "miss the boat" and even if one is already in the friendship zone, when there is chemistry between two people, friendship may transform into something else. Like Andrea Murillo said in her post... being in the friend zone doesn't keep you from making a move. Again, this question is very difficult to answer, it's gotta be done from a personal point of view or perspective, and how it's answered depends upon ones beliefs.

Melody_5.3_DQ18

I think the issue of when sexual activity should happen between a couple depends on the beliefs that the couple has. I know a lot of people, especially in our society now, don't think very much about just having sex whenever they want. Personally, I don't believe that sexual activity should take place between a couple until they are fully committed to each other, as in they are engaged in a lifelong commitment, which I guess in other words is marriage. I don't believe that marriage is about signing a document though. I think that the act of having sex itself is what binds a couple together; when a couple has sex, that is when they are married. This is a whole other topic on its own, so I'm just going to stop it at that. But based on the beliefs that I have, I think the whole sex on the third date thing is absolutely ridiculous and appalling. It's sickening to me that society even set that as some sort of standard in the subject of dating. I'm not sure that you even know someone that well on the third date; in my opinion, to truly know someone, it takes time and effort. If you don't know someone very well, it's difficult to decide to be fully committed to him or her, which in my opinion, means you should not be engaging in any form of sexual activity.

Andrea_5.3_DQ18

I don't believe there is a precise answer to this question. I believe that sometimes is not a matter of time, or how many dates the couple have had. However, I do believe that it is a matter of commitment and trust, and these two do take some time to build up in a relationship. For some, it may take until marriage and for others it may not. I think it's a pretty ridiculous view to think that "you missed the boat" if there was no sexual activity on a third date, or in the fourth one, or in the twentieth one. There is no boat to miss, and if you do "miss" it, then it's probably not the best boat for you to take. I believe I have definitely ended up in the "friendship zone" at least once, but I would not go as far as saying that it would be impossible to make a move; unless the other person already has a partner, I believe there is always a possibility to make a move and just take the risk.

Jacob_DQ18_5.3

the only time any time of sexual activity should happen in a relationship is when both partners consent to it. Plain and simple, if your dating some one and they don't want to have sex by the 3rd date you have two options

-option 1 get the hell over it! you should never base a relationship off of sex that may or may not be any good.
-option 2  find another girl.

 its really that easy, people try to complicate things when its really simple. But I must say there is nothing wrong with being in the friend zone, in fact its one of the best places you can be. that is, if you know how to work the angles.

Ain't Neva Scared!!! >=)

Anne_5.3_DQ18

The sexual activity that sound happen within a relationship should be decided between both the people within the relationship. The reason for this is because it is between the two people it based on everyone else's relationship. When going on a third date and having no sexual activity is probably because the other person does not want the relationship to be based on the activity or both people in the relationship. You may be in the "friendship zone" only because you may want to take the relationship slow which is how you know if the relationship is true or just for fun.

Alex_5.3_DQ18

No you can go on more then three dates before having sex. Relationships are not all about sex. I date girls because I want to have relationship with them. You and your girlfriend or wife might have sex but the relationship should not revolve around it. So I don't think it matters if you and your date decide to have sex after three dates.

Naima_5.3_DQ18

It's hard to give an answer to this question because it depends on the beliefs a person may have. A person may think that sex should be saved for marriage, and another person may be okay with premarital sex. I think that because a person chooses not to have sex after the third date, does not necessarily mean that the other person has been "friend-zoned." I also believe in "courtship" before even start dating someone, or even before a kiss. That may be a cultural difference as well. In my culture is very common for guys to have to wait a lot until the girl accepts to date the guy. But, going back to the question posed in the book, I think it depends on what the two individuals involved in the relationship hold as being valuable to them.

Tyler_5.3_DQ# 18

     I prefer to wait till marrage to have sex, but that is a personal choice. I believe that it is not up to me to make the decisions for when a couple should become sexuallly active in there relationship. Just because someone doesn't have sex with a person early on in a relationship doesn't mean that they have been put in the friend zone It just means that they are taking things slow and trying to get the most out of the relationship.

Gabriella_5.3_DQ

I believe the ideal form is to wait until marriage to have any sexual activity. However, in our present society, virginity is not  respected as much as it was in the previous decades. I would advise to a modern couple to wait a considerate amount of time before having sex because sex always creates an emotional attachment in women. In order to avoid any hurtful and uncomfortable situations the couple should be in the same page as in feelings and the direction where their relationship is going to. Otherwise, the act of ''love'' will be one-sided and ironically selfish. In addition, girls have to watch out for their reputation and be careful about what kind of men are they getting themselves involved with. There are many ''men'' (if they can be called that) that talk about girls they have been with or even worse, they make up false stories about what happened with a chick.    Furthermore, I would never have sex with somebody after  third date. My beliefs and principles will stop me from doing it, and I am so thankful with my parents for the way they raised me. And yes, there have been persons who thought they had no chance with me or that the relaionship was going nowhere because I did not let them do any movement in our first dates. How immature and stupid can that be? I guess these are cues that let me know what values guys have and let me decide on who is more convenient to me.

Corey_5.3_DQ18

First off, sex is not how to create love, it should happen only when love has been created. So far as to the question of when it should enter a relationship, there is a simple answer - when it is time. You will know it. The feeling will be more than just lust or thoughts, but will be a deep feeling. It will not just be physical. The idea that you have missed the boat if there is no sexual activity on the third date is just preposterous. That is almost as bad as a one night stand. Also, if you have been friend zoned, it isn't too late. If the person means enough to you or your feelings are that strong, make your move. Let the person know how you feel. The best partners are the best friends. Unless the person is dead, it's never too late.

Dalton_5.3_DQ18

The thing about physicality in a relationship is that there's no way to say when it should happen. Some believe that to make it worthwhile sexual things should wait until marriage. These thoughts often stem from their religion. I believe that whenever a relationship is ready to make the next step into a larger amount of intimacy both partners will know. This can only truly happen when there is a strong bond after getting to know everything about the other person. Sex isn't the goal destination, in my opinion it's just a part of the road to love.

Cole_5.3_DQ

The amount of sexual activity in a relationship is a mutual decision between both partners. As long as both consent, it can be as soon as after the first date or late as after the first decade. There are never any "missed opportunities" in a relationship though; if one partner expects to engage in sexual activity at a certain time, there is no significant meaning if it does not happen. What reason should someone have to think otherwise?

DJ_5.3_DQ18

It's hard to say when sexual activity should begin in a relationship, and even harder to say that if after the third day you have not had sex feel never anything more than friends. I believe that all of this will vary upon the people in the relationship. I mean you may have one couple that after two dates begin sexual activity and he may have another that doesn't start such activity until after marriage. So it is simply left to the individuals and not some normality rule.

Becca_5.3_DQ18

I'm a little Lengthy today.....

I was a master at being in the "friend zone" when I was in middle and high school. The few friends that I had were semi popular so they were always dating. The worst part was that even the friends of these boys wouldn't even date me! Haha! I laugh about it now...

Anyways, to the question! After the third date if nothing has happened I really don't think that there should be anything to worry about! The relationships that I am going to reference aren't "mature" relationships with first dates that lead to relationships. These are high school, "I like you, You like me, Let's be Boyfriend and Girlfriend" kinda stuff.

During my first relationship, Nick didn't kiss me until well over a month into us dating. I thought it was the cutest thing because we got the chance to really get to know each other before the physical stuff got in the way. 

I have however been in a position (in High School) where I guy confessed his liking for me and wanted to go straight to sex. This was a huge turn off for me because I wasn't in the place where I was comfortable with that. All of my friends were so irritated at me for not giving in because it set me apart from them.

The last example that I'll use is one of my best friends back home. Shannon and Michael started being in a relationship at the end of our Junior year and his Senior Year. They have been together ever since and are perfect for each other in every way. It was the only relationship that I saw and knew that it was going work from day one. They did get pregnant together at the beginning of our Senior year and had a lot they had to deal with in order for their relationship to be healed and continued.

I don't want to be the "holier then thou" Christian that says that any physical act within a relationship is bad because it wouldn't be fair for me to state that at all, but it does complicate things.

I would commend a guy who waits until the third date to make a move. When you know that you are supposed to be with a person there is a irresistible passion between you both that makes it hard to move forward without the physical stuff. 

I'm probably old fashioned from this standpoint, but if a guy doesn't make a move I would sit back and wait until he says something. I would give an example, but I'm not exactly ready to do so just yet. So I'll end with this statement. If a relationship doesn't need work or doesn't have mystery, then what's the point? It might as well be two idle sitting friends.

 This is Baby Bean with Michael, Shannon, and Auntie Becca, Born June 22nd, 2012!

 Bean and Auntie Becca!

Madeleine_5_DQ17

Many think that those who walk into sex stores are sex addicts and perverts. Society does not approve on something that they think promotes what they view as sin. Sex is just a normal part of life and it should not be something to be ashamed of wanting to know more about.

Annabel_5.2_DQ

I have met some people who have made a promise to not have sex until marriage and I respect what they believe and their choice. However, I have never met a person who was in a relationship make or keep the promise. Since we do have the freedom to date who we want and many people, I think it can make it hard for people to keep that promise especially when they are young and have a relationship.

Mary_5.2_DQ17

Entering a sex shop is very controversial. The biggest problem I see with it is the way people personally see it because of what society has instilled into us. Many people do it as a recreation or as a joke (I mean seriously what else is there to do in Clarksville after hours). While seeing someone enter would probably make me feel awkward, to each his own.

Fernando_5.2_DQ17

Sex stores are for people that like to go to them.

I honestly believe my title sounds kinda stupid, and yeah it is. Nonetheless, I strongly believe that sex stores are related to a negative aspect of society, mainly because the whole topic of Sex has been perverted, but it also has to do with the kind of people that go to these places. I would not like to go to one, and as Melody expresses it is none of my business who goes or who doesn't, but my opinion is completely against them. I do not think that there is a general reason why sex stores should not exist, for there are different kinds of people that go to them, and not every single one is, what society calls, bad person.
Overall, I think sex stores are for people that like to go to them, because those of us that do not like them, are not planning to go to them.

Gabriella_5.2_DQ

Walking into a sex store is a visible act of a personal relationship or activity. Society tends to fear this public displays of intimacy because they believe that this will corrupt their souls, or in other words, this activity might upset the social order. The act of transforming oneself or comparing human beings with animals is degrading and disturbing to society. So, when one sees someone entering a sex store, one might compare that individual with a luring animal whose actions transforms society in a negative and inferior way.  Someone in a relationship might be looking for a physical or a spiritual relationship; for us a person that is entering a sex store is just looking for someone to have fun and enjoy the physical activities of a relationship. Society might believe that these individual´s actions emphasize only on the carnal aspects of a relationship thus interfering with his human or socially accepted standards.

Alix_5.2_DQ17

When a person walks into a sex store they are automatically judged and put to a lower standard. The people judging them forget that sex is a common thing and pleasuring yourself is a good thing.  People think that others who use "sex stores" are weird and naive, but on the contrary, they are usually just everyday people looking for a way to spice up their sex life.

Melody_5.2_DQ17

I think that sex stores have a negative connotation attached to it already, so people who step into sex stores typically are viewed negatively as well (not by everyone, obviously, because other people who practice the same thing wouldn't think very much of it and in fact might encourage that behavior). I, personally, do not agree with such actions. It is none of my business, and I wouldn't make it my business, but that doesn't change what my opinions are about the issue. At least for me, I think that the act of entering a sex store reflects negatively on the person's social order. This is because every little thing that we do reflects our personal order. We act based on the values that we hold; we act based on what we believe is right and wrong. I think that entering a sex store shows lust, which to me, reflects negatively on the personal values of the individual.

Becca_5.2_DQ

I'm going to go off the deep end for a second or two. Everyone is pretty much saying what I'm thinking, "It's nobody's business on what I do or what someone else does", but is that what we really think when we are judging others?

Let 's imagine that it did matter, because ultimately it does. Just as Alex stated, we all have reputations to uphold. I have kids back home and if they knew that I went to the sex store, partied, drank, smoked, slept around.... What kind of role model would I be? Not a very good one. My situation is a little bit different. I could care less about what people say about me. I've heard it all. Trust me. But when it comes to my kids, you better watch yourself. That was my biggest transition to overcome when I came here. I wanted so bad to live the "college life" and mess around, but I never wanted to feel like I was hiding something when I went back home. I wanted to be able to tell the kids un-censored about college life. I wanted to say that I kept the faith and pursued God's will. 

This question seems to be circumstantial. We can judge people for walking into a sex shop the same way we judge a teenager getting condoms or a person stuffing their face with too much food. I think this question is slightly unfair, but then again... I have heard it all. 

Cole_5.2_DQ

A subjective impression accompanies all actions and is often dependent on the individual perceiving the action. If someone goes to college, the subjective impression may be that they party or that they are very smart. If someone goes to the library, the subjective impression might be that they love books. If someone enters a sex store, the subjective impression will most likely be that they are dirty or corrupted in some way. I personally feel that the act of someone entering a sex store would reflect the perceiver’s personal order more than the offending consumer. Almost everyone has sex; how they complement this act is their own business. Very young or very old customers are likely to provoke a more dramatic reaction, but all the same, other people do not need to concern themselves unless it actually affects them in a tangible way. Furthermore, simply being at a sex store does not confirm the intent of the person entering it. I have had friends invite me to X-Mart simply for the thrill of doing something stupid and pointless together because we can. Lots of people do this; others are simply curious. Of course, customers would also frequent sex shops, but again, that is their business.

Alex_5.2_DQ17

If I were to walk in to an Xmart many people would think I was a little weird or desperate in some way. Many of my friends would think that I was living a lie by saying I'm a Christan, and my girlfriend and famly would be very dissepointed with me. The point is a place like that would kill my reputation.

Corey_5.2_DQ17

As far as social order goes, the general public will think negatively about that person. Engaging in the act of entering a sex store looks bad because, as we discussed on Wednesday, sex has become a bad word. So far as what we perceive of their personal order, we will think that they are a bad person and probably are of the 'rough type'.

Dalton_5.2_DQ17

Entering a sex shop shouldn't be as controversial as it is. Most people assume that if you walk into an establishment that sells sexual paraphernalia then you're automatically a pervert and that you're a bad person. These thoughts are stereotyping people for no reason! That person walking into the shop could be going to get condoms to be safe and healthy while making love, or they could be a lonely person. I personally have gone into the sex shop in town with friends as a joke. Because we went in are we bad people?  No. We're teens getting a laugh. Don't judge before knowing the whole story.

Madeleine_5_DQ16

Many Americans do not want to see something they deem immoral and scandalous. Sex shops and strip clubs are not bad, though. People need jobs and those places provide them. When people walk by them, they scoff at those who are walking in and out of the stores and clubs because they think only perverts and sex fiends go there when really it is not anything to be ashamed of.

Tyler_5.2_DQ# 17

     *Steps on to soup box* I think that every person is curious. That doesn't make you a bad person for looking. We are each intitled to our own chioces in life and we all have our own view on what is moral. *Steps off soup box*

Naima_5.2_DQ17

Want it or not, we tend to criticize people who walk into sex stores. Why? Because those places promote sexual practices that may not be looked at as being okay. I think, somehow, the social order of a person who walks into a sex store is affected because it lowers the perspective we have of them. Just picture, this. If you saw your mom or dad walking into a sex store, what would you think of him/her? The same thing happens with the rest of people in our lives.

Samantha_5.1_DQ16

Lets all think for a moment...we all know that sex in the public eye is unexcepted. We allow sex shops and strip joints for the simple fact that if you took them away people would start an uproar. Allowing them in certain places provents people from having to explain to their young kids what they are and why they're there. They have to regulate the places, the time they're open, the things that go on inside, and even who is allowed in. Sexual behavior is promitted in more places then it used to be or is it? In the old days these places were called brothals and were just as frowned upon as sex shops and strip clubs. We sell sex in todays society.  We see sex on tv, in the store, even when you go to a praty. We all have that friend who just wants to go out and have a "Good Time" Sex is to be between you and someone you love not just an act that you do when your bored or drunk. Us as a young generation should step up and show the next generation that this is not the way the world works. Selling sex is the main reason so many young kids are having kids of their own.

Annbabel_5.1_DQ

I think that the law is just trying to recognize that certain sexual conduct will happen but what they are trying to regulate is prostitution. But it can be confusing because of the line that they try to draw by saying you can have the freedom to do what you want except for prostitution. Some of these places end up crossing the line because what is being allowed ends up leading to prostitution.

Cole_5.1_DQ

Society regulates and permits sexual behavior for the most obvious reason in the world: sex sells. Just looking at the porn industry, the United States makes $2 - $13 billion a year (according to Wikipedia), and that is only one area of business that sells sex. If the government did not regulate it, it would be another corruptible area for the black market. For example, if black market dealers were the only source of birth control, they could tamper with condoms, produce fake or ineffective pills, and fill a bottle that says "spermicide" with any liquid substance they want, all for enormous profit. Since people will have sex regardless of what the law states, it is far more beneficial to everyone to regulate it for the public's safety, tax it for the government's benefits, and provide quality products for the consumers who do not need (more) children. A lot of people have a moral dilemma with this; I have seen many people shoot down the concept of premarital or casual sex, and I have also found that many of these people are hypocrites. I am neutral opinioned as far as the issue goes, but people that delude themselves with a self-concept of innocence disgust me, particularly when they establish their own boundaries of sexual acceptance (the stuff that they have done) and judge anyone who has gone further or in a different direction. For instance, some people believe oral sex is okay, but sexual intercourse is not. They are essentially the same, save for the symbolic and biological differences. Marriage is merely a government-recognized ceremony that closes certain doors and opens new ones. From a religious standpoint, it might have a symbolic meaning, but from a logical standpoint, there is no reason that someone should have to wait until the government has recognized love to have sex. Here is my question: if someone never has sex until they are married, but they have been married ten times so that their sex is considered “proper”, are they hypocritical and wrong? (I am particularly interested from a traditional Christian perspective.)

Melody_5.1_NI

"Why does religion or society care about the places where people express passion?" 

I can't speak for religion because there are many different religions, and I do not want to generalize the reasons why "all" religions care about the places where people express passion. As far as society goes, I am a part of society, so I will speak from my point of view. I think that this, once again, goes back to the issue of PDA, as we previously discussed in class. Some people are just uncomfortable with PDA while others are not bothered with it at all. Personally, I think that the expression of passion between a couple should be done privately instead of in front of other people. Expressing passion (in whatever form) is a very intimate thing, and therefore, it should be between the couple alone and should be done in private instead of in public places for other people to see. On top of that, as I previously mentioned, PDA just makes me uncomfortable.